“You can’t imagine just how much believing in negative thoughts is affecting your life…until you stop.”
― Charles F. Glassman
It's easy to think negatively. If we aren't optimistic, we can't be disappointed. If we don't try, we can't fail. It's easier to just keep thinking "what if" than to actually put in the work to be able to say "I did."
I used to be that girl. I was that girl several times during several different seasons of my life. Some days I still am that girl.
I can be the Queen of Excuses. I'll make them for me, for you, heck for the weather. If excuses burned calories, I would be shredded.
But sometimes, you just have to get out of your own dang way!
Positive thinking is a powerful thing. Rather than saying "oh that will never happen," think "what if it actually did happen?" or "it WILL happen!" Prayer and positive thinking can get you a long way in life.
I really got into fitness my freshman year of college. I was in a new place with not that many friends and terrified of the Freshman 15, so I started going to the gym. It soon became my place of solitude and became a routine. From my freshman year to my senior year, I tried several times to be "lean" or even work towards a competition prep. Finally, my senior year I decided it was "now or never" and I hired a coach. I remember talking it over with Michael and I asked him "But what if this time isn't any different? What is to say that I won't get a few weeks in and quit like I always do?"
And in the next breath he said something to me that has never left me - "You've just gotta want it bad enough."
Enough that I won't let myself quit. Enough that I will put in the work even when I don't want to. Enough that I will sacrifice what is necessary and think positively that this will happen.
And it did. Since that moment that word has almost become my motto. Over the years, what it means to me has changed several times. But nevertheless, it is powerful.
Love yourself enough that you will get out of your own way. Stop making excuses and thinking about what could be and make it be. We've only got one shot at this thing called life and you'll never know if you don't try.
And stop beating yourself up. Think positively about yourself and TO yourself. You are your own biggest advocate, but you're also your own worst critic. Sure, other people will root you on and help you along the way, but you have to execute and be kind to yourself. If you don't like you and you don't root for you, don't expect anyone else to either.
For every positive comment, you'll get two negative ones. People are looking for you to fail so they can feel better about not going after their goals. And you might fail - you probably will fail at some point. But failure doesn't mean you're finished. Pick yourself up and in the words of Aaliyah (May she RIP), dust yourself off and try again. Put your head down and work.
What if an airplane pilot said "Oh, I've hit a little turbulence, guess I've gotta crash the whole plane."
Um NO! You get through it and keep flying. No matter how close the ground may seem, you keep that plane in the air. Your turbulence might be a busy schedule, it might be sickness or it might be stress. You might be yelling MAYDAY! with a bag of M&M's in hand - keep the plane in the air. Wake up the next day, forget about it, and ascend again.
I want success for every single person that I talk to. I know how it feels to not know where to begin. But you have to figure it out and you have to begin. Let's think about the plane again - have you ever really felt comfortable during take-off? Planes take off into the wind. Your heart races a little, your stomach feels like it's in your feet and your ears are popping. But once you get in the air, you start to relax and get comfortable. Going after your goals is the same way. The beginning is going to be uncomfortable. You're not going to know where to begin, but you do. Before you know it your wheels are off the ground and you're climbing. You might hit a bad patch of air and dip down, but you keep climbing. And soon enough, you're at cruising altitude and you're comfortable. Things are a little bit easier.
The patches of turbulence will always be there. Life is going to happen and you're going to have to adjust, but I promise you, if you keep flying the plane, you'll reach your destination.